The Latest Book Recommendation – “The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work”

The Latest Book Recommendation from Lee’s Bookshelf – “The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work” by John Gottman Ph.D.

I (Lee) featured this book as an additional resource in my new book Captured by Love, but honestly, most of the principles are applicable for all interpersonal relationships. Drs. John and Julie Gottman are two of the most famous marriage researchers in the US.

This book provides a short summary of the key principles they have learned over the years. There are many great articles online that share insights from the Gottmans’ research. My wife Mary has attended several Gottman-based workshops and has used their concepts for many years. Reading about their laboratory observations of couples is quite enlightening.

In describing their Seventh Principle of Marriage, Dr. Gottman says that “Creating Shared Meaning” has a spiritual dimension that is important for a couple’s growth. In addition to the seven principles, this book shares the Four Horsemen that destroy marriages: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling. These endanger a marriage very quickly.


Please learn more about this book on the Goodreads website.


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