Consider some of these leadership strengths and what happens when they get too strong:
- Confident – Self-centered, talk mainly about their agenda, discount others
- Decisive – Opinionated–sometimes wrong but never in doubt
- Initiating – Too aggressive to get what they want
- Outgoing – Need to be the center of attention
- Accurate – React strongly to constructive feedback
- Take Charge – Controlling, believing that they are smarter, superior
- Strategic – Manipulative of others to get what they want
- Logical and Objective – Insensitive to the feelings and needs of others
- Visionary – Blame others when something goes wrong
The whole issue of outward ego strength could be put on a visual continuum – at least for purposes of discussion:
Low self-esteem > Passive > Humble — Balanced > Strong ego > Arrogant > Narcissist
Based on past experience, I would expect the following division in the general population –
- 1/3 lean toward a strong ego even egotistical.
- 1/3 lean toward a reticent or quiet ego.
- 1/3 are more balanced.
How can you coach yourself to maximize your strengths and minimize your struggles? Here are three valuable tips:
1. Gain more self-awareness of how others see you. What traits can you do more or less of to be more effective?
2. If you’re humble and reticent –
- Believe in yourself and the value you bring to the table and assert yourself into situations.
- Speak up to share your insights and ideas. Challenge issues when you disagree.
- Stretch and take on high profile challenges that match your natural talents.
3. If you naturally have a strong ego –
- Solicit input and practice active listening.
- Set aside your agenda and become more aware of the other person’s feelings and your own feelings in the moment.
- Consider how you can affirm, encourage, and support others.
We all have the opportunity and responsibility to lead others in becoming a more balanced leader. Please also add your comments and experience by posting below –
Also, read the entire article on this topic – “9 Behaviors of a Narcissistic Leader”